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Embracing Vulnerability and Giving Up Shame is Important (and Difficult)

4 February 2014

Allison watched Brené Brown’s 2012 TED Talk, Listening to shame, and was grateful for another dose of Brown’s humor and courage.

Tags: allison read, allison watched, balance, brene brown, change, courage, creativity, happiness, listening, ted

We’re big fans of Brené Brown at Allison Partners. Brown’s ability to be vulnerable about how hard it is to be vulnerable is about as real and hilarious as it gets. If you haven’t seen her first TED Talk from 2010, you’re in for a treat. In 2012 she gave another TedTalk about how her life changed in between these talks including lots of great stories about how even when you’re the vulnerability expert, it’s often not much fun to be vulnerable. (In fact, that’s probably how you know you’re doing it right.)

In this second talk, Brown clearly articulates why, “vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.” She also explains why guilt is different from shame and that we need to give up shame if we want to be in authentic, healthy relationships with ourselves and others. (Here’s what I’ve learned from Brown on this topic--guilt says, “I did a bad thing and I’m sorry.” Shame says, “I am bad and there’s no hope for me so let the punishment and self-flogging rain down.”)

The 2010 talk is up to 13,663,105 views and the 2012 talk has hit 3,515,244. I think you’ll be glad if you add to those numbers and then you might want to enjoy one (or more) of her books and blog posts. Whenever I need help being brave so that I can both do my work and be who I want to be in all facets of my life, I return to Brown for inspiration. (You’d think I wouldn’t need to listen to her over and over again, but some weeks are that hard and she always makes me feel better.)


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